Tomorrow, Wednesday January 27th the Sun moves into Gate 19. In Human Design this gate is known as the Gate of Wanting. In the I Ching this gate is known as the Gate of Approach. This is an energy that wants and needs community.
This year has made me very aware of the importance of human connection. We are so tribal. Connection is just as important to maintaining good health as eating well or exercise. Infants that are not able to bond with their primary caregiver in the first 5 years of life can develop serious emotional and physical illnesses and in some cases not survive. We are born with a need to love and to be loved from the very beginning. This energy is very sensitive. A lot of individuals with this gate activated in their BodyGraph could be termed "highly sensitive". This energy is highly sensitive in every way. Sensitive to touch, energy, feelings and to other people's needs. When this energy is channeled properly, and in it's highest expression, these individuals are a gift to the world. Sensitivity has generally been looked down upon in our culture. This is so unfortunate because vulnerability takes a great deal of courage. Personally, I believe to be "real" and vulnerable in a world that devalues and even mocks sensitivity is one of the bravest things one can do! "Nothing is softer or more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it." - Lao Tzu This is what Richard Rudd has to say about this gate he calls Gene Key 19.... Gene Key 19 SHADOW-CO-DEPENDENCE GIFT – SENSITIVITY SIDDHI – SACRIFICE “We all do and say things that hurt others, sometimes intentionally, sometimes not. Sensitivity is an art we all need to learn. When we’ve learned it, we feel so strong, so connected to life, but we also feel so permeable and soft.” – Richard Rudd, 64 Ways Each year the sun moves counterclockwise around the gates of the mandala (like the sun moves through the astrological signs), spending approximately 6 days in each gate. As the sun (or any other celestial body) moves through a gate it **“activates”**the energy of that gate. This means that the energy is released to “flow” to us. The sun is considered the most dominant and important transit to be aware of.) **Human Design is a synthesis of ancient and modern sciences; proven to be a valuable tool for human understanding. Human Design is a cutting-edge personality assessment tool that shows you your unique decision making strategy, your special gifts and talents, where you carry your pain and potential for healing and wisdom. You can get your free chart here https://www.geneticmatrix.com/free-foundation-chart/ April Novoa is a certified Human Design Specialist. To get started living your design book an appointment with April by visiting humandesignsimplified.weebly.com , calling 404-808-690 or emailing her at [email protected] April will need 3 days to complete your report. Please keep this in mind when scheduling your appointment. Appointments are conducted on Zoom or at the House of Light on Thursdays. When you book your appointment a zoom link will be sent to you.
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A "people pleaser" is a person that has an emotional need to please others, often at the expense or his or her own needs or desires. Living as a people pleaser can leave a person feeling drained in virtually every way. Self neglect, in time, can have some very unpleasant side effects. Codependents are people pleasers but Codependency is a more extreme version of people pleasing. As a recovering People Pleaser I had wondered if there were certain factors or even elements in the Human Design BodyGraph that made a person more susceptible to people pleasing. The most likely candidate, albeit it a bit of a generalization, is conditioning. Conditioning are layers of expectations, pressures, and fears that are put on us from the time we are born. These can come from our families, society and planetary cycles. Conditioning can also come from our genetics! If you have grown up in an environment that encouraged or even rewarded people pleasing it's possible that those behaviors are either unconsciously or consciously being expressed. I would say more likely unconsciously as awareness itself can begin a process of healing and recovery. There are a few places in the BodyGraph that can make a person more likely to seek to please others at their own expense. One I'd like to mention is the open solar plexus. The solar plexus in your BodyGraph is the center shaped like a triangle on the right, outermost part of your BodyGraph. It will either be open or undefined, or colored brown. If it is open or undefined that means that the energy there is inconsistent and you will likely take in the emotion of others and amplify that energy in your body. You will likely be empathic or even an 'empath'. In other words you will feel the feelings of others and experience those feelings much more intensely. You could be extremely uncomfortable with unpleasant emotion and may try and please the other person in an effort to not feel what they are feeling amplified in your being. Again, if this is going on, it's likely you will not be immediately aware of this dynamic. People pleasing in this instance is simply a reaction to attempt to equalize the 'out of kilter' energy that you are feeling . Next I want to bring up a Human Design Type that pretty much every resource I checked into referred to as a potential people pleaser. The Manifestor. Yes, the Human Design type some people are intimidated by. Does that surprise you that they can become people pleasers? Manifestor children can really confuse care givers. They have a closed and repelling aura so they are difficult to read and therefore not readily trusted. They are bold, often fearless and they move fast and an unaware parent can be really hard on them in an effort to protect them or just gain a sense of control. Unfortunately sometimes this escalates to the point that this child's natural initiating urges are repressed. It's painful to be controlled and even more painful to feel like you are not trustworthy. Ultimately a desire to find trust, acceptance or approval in a parent or authority can turn them into, you guessed it, a world class people pleaser. I really believe knowing your child's type is so important. It's really a game changer and I do wish that I had known more about my children's aura type earlier! While I am certain there are a multitude of other factors that can contribute to people pleasing these are just a few to consider. Becoming free of people pleasing tendencies can be challenging but it is doable. I find that the more I work on having healthy boundaries, care for myself and address my needs FIRST the more there is of me to genuinely give to those that are in need. My parents have always joked that I am little bit like Dustin Hofmann's character in Little Big Man. The movie came out in 1970. (It was hilarious but there are probably a few things that might be a bit triggering to some folks so I just want to give you a heads up about that if you are inclined to watch it.) Dustin's character tries on quite a few "life roles" throughout the movie that tells the story of his life in his own words. There was his childhood on the frontier. He then had a period being raised by a Native American tribe. Then he was a Gunslinger. Then he became religious. Then he denounced religion and became a scout for General Custer. That doesn't go well (as we know) and was quite discouraging so he became a recluse and then finally returns to the Cheyenne people. He decides he wants to die but that doesn't work out either so he sticks around and ultimately becomes the old man telling his story about living in a world that at this point no longer exists. He is a person that has seen it and done it all! Like Dustin's character, I have had a lot of phases, so to speak. None so dramatic but I have tried many things, have had many experiences and "failure" as well success. I was raised in a world that put a premium on finding "the thing" and sticking with it. Unfortunately for me that was never in the cards. I am not shaped that way. I will never have the gold watch after 50 years at a company somewhere and I will never retire from a corporation after years of service. I have never stuck with a job, a career, a religion or a clothing style. I am fiercely independent and an avid explorer. I think my husband has likely been married to several women....all with my face. (I have kept him for 32 years by the way) For me everything changes, all the time. When I learn a truth, there is another. I learn something new, I get bored or I come to the end of whatever it is I am learning and experimenting with and I move one. I integrate what worked and discard what didn't. I carried a lot of shame about this most of my life. I compared my myself to all the people who found "the thing." There never has been "a thing" for me. There have been many things and I know, now, there will be more. When I met Human Design the shame and comparison stopped. What I found out about myself, and people like me, blew my socks off! My life's trajectory and the paths I have taken were no mistake. They were data. Data is always a good thing. It's helpful and the world needs it. In Karen Curry Parker's book Understanding Human Design The New Science of Astrology: Discover Who You Really Are, where she is discussing Line 3's, I have underlined these words: "You have never made a mistake in your life. Everything that you have tried that didn't work out was a crucial step in you mastering what does work." I will say, now in my my 50's, the experimentation has slowed a bit. None the less, it is a big part of who I am and it's not something I am going to stop to fit society's definition of what is correct or acceptable. For me learning is thrilling. I am a forever student! However, in Human Design I think I have found something that will likely keep me busy exploring for the rest of my days. Blessings! April |
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